9 Ways to Maximize Individual Time with Each of Your Children

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Whether you are a SAHM, WAHM or work out of the home it is a challenge for moms with multiple children to divide their time amongst them while trying to make sure each one of them feels special.

After we had our third child, my oldest two children (ages 4 and 7 at the time) experienced a lot of jealousy and resentment.  It was bad enough they had to share my husband and I between the two of them, and now they had to share us with an extra person.  They didn’t like all of the extra time and attention the new baby was getting.  We all know that newborns require ALOT of attention. 

My kids would ask me to play all the time, but I was too tired.  I didn’t want to go anywhere either cause it was too much of a hassle just trying to leave the house.  I basically just let the TV entertain them.  I know that wasn’t fair for them, but at the time I was exhausted and my patience was thin.  Luckily my husband has lots of energy and loves to play and goof around with the kids, that helped sometimes.

I noticed a change in my oldest two children’s behavior, they began acting out more.  I think they just wanted some attention, even if it was negative attention. 

This type of behavior just led to extra stress and frustration on my end.  I became more stressed out and less tolerant and more impatient.  I spent a lot of energy disciplining them (no TV, going to their rooms, missing out on special events like birthday parties).  None of this really helped though.

It also didn’t help when I went back to work after maternity leave and had even less time to spend with them.  On weekdays we don’t get home until after 6:00 pm.  When I pick them up from daycare after work, our evening consists of trying to get through fixing dinner, eating dinner, homework, brushing teeth, bath, and getting to bed.  Oh yeah, and simultaneously taking care of an infant.  That doesn’t leave much room for quality time when you’re trying to get the kids to bed by 8:30.

But, as my baby is getting older (11 months now), I am still busy and tired, but I am making more of an effort to spend more quality time with each of my children.  Once I began making more of an effort, their behavior has drastically improved.  Also, as a result, I don’t have the extra stress of having to deal with constant behavioral issues (kids will still be kids, but the acting out has become less excessive).  I am less stressed and overall everyone is happier.

9 Ways to maximize individual time with your children

9 Ways to Maximize Individual Time with Each of Your Children

1.       Have “date nights” with your children individually.

2.       Point out their individual qualities. Let your children know that each one of them is important and special just for being them. 

3.       Have a special bedtime routine with each of them.  I enjoy reading to them and talking about our day.

4.       When you run an errand take one of your children with you, you can alternate between them.

5.       While your out with one of your children stop to get a special treat, like a cake pop or hot chocolate from Starbucks or some ice-cream. 

6.       Sit with one of them while they are watching one of their favorite TV shows, even if you aren’t interested in what they are watching.

7.       If feasible let each of your children participate in an extra-curricular activity that interests them.  Try to be involved or at least show some interest in their activity.

8.       Ask each of your children how their day was, listen and ask open ended questions to get a dialog going.  They will appreciate you showing genuine interest.

9.       Let them individually help you cook dinner or bake treats.

As busy moms it can be pretty difficult to try and divide our time between our children.  Even if you can’t spend a lot of individual quality time with your kids, even moments of time can make a difference.  

Maybe you prefer spending quality time as a family, and that’s ok too.

Quality time ideas you can do individually or as a family ………….

Perhaps you prefer to spend quality time as a family rather than with each child individually.  Some fun ideas include:

·         Going to the movies or having a family movie night or game night at home

·         Cooking or baking together as a family

·         Going to an amusement park

·         Miniature golfing

·         Bowling

·         Visiting friends and family

·         Going to the park

·         Going for a special treat at your favorite ice-cream shop or bakery

·         Taking a walk

My children just like to be around my husband and I.  It often doesn’t really matter what we our doing as long as they get to spend time with us.

What are some ways you make each of your kids feel special?

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8 Natural Cough Remedies

What treatments can you give your child to relieve a cough?  There are various over the counter cough medicines that are effective, but it is not recommended to give cough medicine to children under 6 years old. Some parents may also prefer an alternative to medications.  Below are 8 natural remedies you can use to sooth your child’s cough.

1. Moist Air

Use a cool mist humidifier or sit in a steamy bathroom for 10-15 minutes.  Moist air helps loosen mucus making it easier to cough it up.  Moist air also helps to sooth an irritated throat.  Adding eucalyptus oil to a humidifier may also help.  Make sure to clean the humidifier daily to avoid mold growth.

Tip:  I read in a review that using distilled water helps keep your humidifier clean.

2. Honey

Before bed offer ½ teaspoon of honey to treat a cough for children ages 1-5 and 1 teaspoon for children age 6 and above.  You can also try combining honey with fresh lemon juice in a glass of warm water.  Honey is not safe for children under the age of 1 year old because it can cause infantile botulism.

3. Elevate Your Child’s Head

Slightly elevate your child’s head to treat postnasal drip.  Do not use a pillow for infants, instead try putting a towel under the head of the mattress.

4. Increase Fluids

Drinking plenty of fluids helps thin out mucus.

5. Vapor Rub

The ingredients in vapor rub helps sooth cough by acting as a decongestant.  Vapor rub is typically applied to the chest, however some parents swear by applying vapor rub to their child’s feet.  Vapor rub is not recommended for children under the age of 2 years old.

6. Saline Drops

A couple of saline drops in each nostril helps alleviate congestion by loosening mucus.

7. Nasal Aspirator

Use a nasal aspirator to remove mucus.  Try adding some saline drops to loosen the mucus prior to suctioning it out.  Be aware that misuse or overuse of a nasal aspirator can cause tissue damage or swelling.

8. Chicken Noodle Soup

Studies have shown that chicken noodle soup contains anti-inflammatory properties that helps sooth a cough.


What are some of your cough remedies?

9 Natural Remedies for Sunburn

Most of us know by now that it is important to protect our skin when we are out in the sun.  But we don’t always protect our skin like we should, even when we have good intentions.  If you do happen to get a sunburn, it can be very painful and uncomfortable.  Continue reading for some of the best treatments for sunburn.

1. Oatmeal

Oatmeal can be used to sooth sunburned skin in a variety of ways:

  • Cooked – Cook the oatmeal as directed, add additional water to make the consistency runnier. After the oatmeal cools, apply it to the sunburned skin.  Rinse the solution with cool water once relief is obtained.
  • As a Paste – Add milk and honey to ground oats to form a paste consistency. Apply to the affected area, then rinse once relief is obtained. Omit the honey for children under 12 months.
  • In the Bath – Add ground oats to a lukewarm bath. Or use over the counter colloidal oatmeal mixtures such as Aveeno Soothing Bath Treatment.
  • As a Moisturizer – Apply an oatmeal enriched lotion such as Aveeno Daily Moisturizing Lotion with Natural Colloidal Oatmeal

2. Plan Yogurt

Apply plain yogurt to sunburned skin.  Leave on the skin until it dries, then rinse with cool water.

3. Baking Soda

Add a few tablespoons of baking soda to a lukewarm bath and soak for 10-20 minutes.

4. Potatoes

  • Cut a potato into slices and rub the potato onto the skin several times a day, or
  • Add cut potatoes and a bit of water to a blender. Blend until watery then apply the solution to the skin with a cotton ball.

5. Tea

  • Soak black or green tea bags in boiling water for 10 to 20 minutes. Remove the tea bags, squeeze out the water and let cool.  Apply the damp tea bags directly to the sunburn and leave on the skin until the tea bags are dry, or
  • Brew several tea bags, let the tea cool, then soak a cloth in the tea. Add the tea soaked clothed to the sunburn and leave on the skin to provide relief.  Try adding mint to the tea for extra relief.

6. Cucumbers

Apply cool cucumber to sunburned skin for soothing relief.

7. Rehydrate

Drink plenty of water to rehydrate your skin.

8. Lavender Oil

Apply lavender oil to the sunburn or add a few drops in a lukewarm bath.

9. Aloe Vera

  • Cut open an aloe vera leaf and remove the gel. Apply the gel directly to the sunburn.  Rinse if needed.  Repeat 2-3 times a day, or
  • Try a moisturizer like 99.75% pure organic aloe vera gel made by Earth’s Daughter.

Leave a comment and share some of your sunburn remedies.

22 Home Remedies for Bug Bites

Its summer time and we are spending more time outdoors, making us more susceptible to bug bites.  In cases when the bug bite is not severe, natural home remedies may be effective.

22 Home Remedies for Bug Bites

  1. Wash the area – clean and disinfect the area with soap and water.
  2. A Cool Compress – applying an ice pack to the bite reduces pain and swelling by numbing the nerves.
  3. Oatmeal – moisturizes and has anti-itching agents.  Make a paste with oatmeal and water (half oats and half water) and apply to the bite, or make an oatmeal bath to soak in.
  4. Baking Soda – mix baking soda with water (2 parts baking soda and 1 part water) to make a paste and apply to the itchy area.
  5. Witch Hazel – is a plant based substance that reduces pain, itching and swelling.  There are brands of witch hazel that are alcohol free for people with sensitive skin.
  6. Deodorant – apply antiperspirant directly to the bite to soothe the itch.
  7. Honey – is a natural antibiotic that provides itch relief.  Apply honey directly to the bite.  Try adding cinnamon to the honey.  Cinnamon contains antibacterial and antifungal properties
  8. Milk – helps with swelling and itch. Breastmilk is also effective.
  9. Toothpaste – helps relieve itching and swelling.
  10. Banana Peel – rub the inside of a banana peel on the bite to soothe swelling.
  11. Lemon or Lime Juice – helps relieve itch.
  12. Vinegar (white or apple cider) – helps with itching and swelling (apple cider vinegar is antibacterial, anti-inflammatory and is less acidic than white vinegar).
  13. Basil – rub chopped basil on the bite to reduce inflammation.
  14. Tea bags – apply cool, damp tea bags to the bite to reduce pain and swelling.
  15. Mouthwash – helps with itching and swelling.
  16. Tea Tree Oil – dilute tea tree oil with water before applying to the bite.
  17. Lavender Oil – apply lavender oil to the bite to reduce itchiness.
  18. Fresh Onion – rubbing fresh onion on the bite reduces pain and swelling.
  19. Potato – apply a fresh piece of cut potato to the bite to reduce pain, swelling and itch.
  20. Cucumber – rub fresh cucumber on the area to reduce swelling.
  21. Aloe Vera – aloe vera gel reduces swelling and soothes the itch
  22. Sugar – apply sugar to a damp cloth and apply to the bite.  It helps reduce pain and swelling.

Other remedies include: hydrocortisone, calamine lotion and antihistamines (like Benadryl).

This list is for informational purposes only, consult with a medical professional prior administering new remedies.

Some bug bites can cause a severe allergic reaction.  Get immediate medical attention if you experience any of the following:

  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Stomach cramps
  • Symptoms of infection
  • Shortness of breath
  • Rapid heartbeat
  • Flu-like symptoms
  • Hives
  • Dizziness
  • Swelling of throat, tongue or lips

Share your bug bit remedies.