Whether you are a mom who works in the home or out of the home or a stay at home mom, we all face different day to day struggles and challenges. I think we can all relate to each other in some way. I asked 7 moms what their biggest challenge is as a working or stay at home mom. They also shared one challenge they have conquered.
I am a mom of three children, ages 8, 6 and 17 months. For me it’s hard to pick just one challenge I have as a working mom. I suppose my biggest challenge is keeping the house in order. With the dishes, the laundry, the toys and clutter, it’s overwhelming. There isn’t enough time in the day to keep up with it all with everything else I have on my plate. I have been making an effort to work on my time management to conquer this challenge.
One challenge I have conquered is making it a priority to find ways to spend quality time with each of my children. You may find some of the tips in my post 9 Ways to Maximize Individual Time with Each of Your Children helpful.
Ok, so back to the moms I mentioned earlier, these 7 busy moms were kind enough to tell us a little bit about themselves and share their daily challenges and wins.
I am a 29 year old stay at home mom of two. My oldest is 4 and my baby is 11 months – both girls. I also have two step daughters 8 & 7 which live with me this year while we are in Hawaii. My husband is a US Army Soldier for the last 6 years. Hawaii is our second duty station, previously we were stationed on Fort Bliss in El Paso, TX. I am an entrepreneur. I’m a health & fitness coach with a leading company and strive to untie women, moms, military spouses, and all those in between who 1. Are looking for a life style change and 2. Need the motivational push to succeed.
My biggest challenge as a #momprenuer (as i like to call myself) is time management. I strive to make sure my kids can participate in activities outside of school as well as being involved in the church, I often find myself running out of time. If I could wave a magic wand and get my to-do list knocked out EVERYDAY it would truly be a heaven sent. Life with 4 young children is chaotic and each day is never the same. I’m needing to find a way to get my work done as a nonnegotiable while fitting in all my other mom/wife responsibilities.
One thing I have conquered that’s made my life much easier is meal planning & prepping! Being a health & fitness coach it’s important I’m on top of my nutrition. So planning my meals ahead of time, creating a shopping list, and then prepping 3-4 days out at a time has made things SO much easier for me!
Where can you find Clarissa?
My name is Brenda. I am a Christian mom from California with three children ages 21, 19, and 11. I am also a substitute teacher. I help moms eat healthy while saving time and money. I love sharing frugal and healthy tips and tricks to help busy moms have more time to spend with their families. A fun fact: I’m fluent in American Sign Language and interpret at my church.
My biggest challenge as a working mom is trying to find time to get everything done. When I work all day subbing, when I get home, I still have to cook, clean, and sometimes bake. I also run a blog, so I want to find time to work on that every day too. Of course, my kids always need something also – papers signed, help with homework, etc.
The one challenge I’ve conquered is meal planning. I spend a little bit of time a few days a week going through the store circulars to see which stores have the best deals, writing out my meal plan and grocery list for the week using my grocery list checklist to make the process quicker and easier, and then looking through my coupons to combine them with the sales. Each week I seem to get faster with this process and it saves me money and time because I don’t have to run to the grocery store during the week to pick up anything because I already have it all.
Where can you find Brenda?
My name is Ashley, and I am a Stay-at-Home Mom of two boys, ages 5 and 2. My blog is called Look for Little Helpers. It is a place where I share resources and ideas related to teaching kids to be kind, compassionate, and grateful, to know and love all kinds of people, to be globally and culturally aware, and to feel the joy born of making a difference in the lives of others. I am a lover of running, supporting fellow moms, and keeping it real. Because let’s face it, we are all busy and parenting is hard, but there is no need go through it alone!
My biggest challenge as a Stay-at-Home Mom (aside from the sleepless nights) is undoubtedly trying to find a balance between taking care of others and nurturing myself. When my first son was born, I left my job as a Speech/Language Pathologist to stay at home with my children. They are my greatest accomplishment, and I could not love anything more. However, some of my identity went missing when I quit my job. I’ve spent a lot of time soul-searching and asking myself, “What is my ‘thing’? What makes me, me?” I needed to find a way to feed my adult, professional brain, as opposed to solely fulfilling my role as a mom inside the home. I’m not ready to go back to work, but I needed something. Then I discovered blogging. I can make improvements in my kids’ lives, improve my parenting skills, and collaborate with others. And, by writing and designing my website, I also have something that is professional and completely my own. I think I have found how to connect the two sides of myself in a meaningful way, and that feels good.
One challenge I have conquered was establishing a good morning routine. It sets us up for a better day (not perfect, but better). Here is a glimpse of ours:
1. Get up before the kids. I am NOT a morning person, so this was a huge hurdle for me. But, I have learned that being able to sit in silence for even just a brief time with my blog and a cup of coffee is very centering. When the kids wake up and chaos ensues, I am much more ready to take it all on, rather than scrambling straight from bed. I also get so much more done!
2. Make breakfast.
3. Mindfulness activity with the kids. Before we rush off to school and responsibilities, we do one short mindfulness activity together. We don’t spend a significant amount of time (anywhere between 1-10 minutes), but becoming fully present and calm is amazingly helpful before we set off on our hectic day. I have a list of simple, short mindfulness activities for kids on my blog if you would like some ideas: http://lookforlittlehelpers.com/mindfulnessforkids/.
4. Preschool drop-off.
5. Workout. At least one of my kids is almost always with me, so I usually exercise with them. I’ve learned to let go of the idea of a perfect workout because it doesn’t exist. Someone spills a snack, crawls over me, cries, or needs a diaper change in the middle. That’s just how it is. What is important is that I do it anyway. I run with the jogging stroller or put out some snacks and activities for the kids in our living room and turn on a workout video. I find that even a choppy, interrupted workout makes me feel better. As Raneir Pollar from my favorite Popsugar workout says, “If you learn to enjoy moments like this that are tough, imagine how fun the good times in life are going to be”.
Where can you find Ashley?
Lauren is a working teacher-mama with two children, ages 5 and 8. Over the past decade she has experienced working from home, out of the home and being a SAHM during the summers. She shares simple health and happiness tips for busy moms at https://simply-well-balanced.com. As an experienced mom, yoga instructor and former medical researcher she is excited to share quick and simple ideas to help moms reduce stress and increase joy.
My biggest challenge as a working mom is making sure that I give my family my full attention once I walk through the door at the end of the day. Since I work as a teacher I am constantly thinking about how the day went and what I am planning for tomorrow. However, I want my own children to grow up feeling like I was always attentive to them. Distracted parenting is commonplace today and my goal is to avoid my children feeling like my job was more important to me than they are – since that is not the case.
As a new mom I tried to do it all and I put extremely high, non-realistic expectations on myself. It took a few years for me to realize I was no longer the happy, healthy person I used to be or wanted to be as a mother and wife. It took a struggle through anxiety, poor health and exhaustion for me to realize that I needed to make changes. That is when I started to simplify as much as possible. I focused on the four pillars of my life; Family, Fitness, Finance and Food. Through simplifying I was able to create balance and regain my health and happiness. I now share those tips with other busy moms on my site.
A challenge conquered? Finances are one area that I was able to make an enormous change. With a new family medical bills, daycare expenses and household maintenance costs were burying us. We got to the point where we were stressing about money and $50,000 in debt. After failing at multiple strategies to get our finances in order I discovered what really works. We are now in a position where we never worry or stress about money, have paid off our debt and can build wealth. I have put the tips, tricks and strategies that we used to change our mindset and reverse our financial situation in my free “Busy Moms Guide to Avoid Financial Stress”
Where can you find Lauren?
Hi! I’m Sina, a momma bear to one nine month old little man. I’m a stay at home mom, wife and a blogger. I’m also a wine drinker, a coffee guzzler, and a podcast listener.
One of the biggest challenges I face as a stay at home mom is redundancy. Doing the dishes, laundry, floors, cooking, errands, and changing ALL the diapers. It can get repetitive.
I think one of the things that I have slowly become proficient in is organization. I learned that when everything has a place, and there’s a place for everything- life runs so much smoother! Especially with a little one- clean up becomes easy when you know exactly what you have and where it goes! I’m not a minimalist, but I am intentional with the items I possess. And yes, it IS achievable. Just remember to do a quick tidy at night no matter how tired you are. You will thank yourself in the morning.
Where can you find Sina?
After ten years in the throes of hyperemesis gravidarum, JENNIFER GRIFFIN can’t stop writing about mothering her four powerful children (ages 7-16). Using energy work and other alternative healing modalities, Griffin specializes in leading individuals to uncover the messages of chronic health conditions and their children’s challenging behaviors. She loves to empower people to learn DIY healing techniques, such as EMDR, TAT and TRE. Visit her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JenniferGriffinauthor to learn more about her books: Understanding Your Child As A Spiritual Gift and Understanding Morning Sickness as a Gift.
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My biggest challenge to working and homeschooling my four children was re-entering the workforce after being a stay-at-home mom for ten years.
To address this challenge, I had to figure out how to work at home while still being available to my children. For me, the best way to do this is to schedule playdates at my house. A bit like dating, I had to be clear about what I was looking for and find other kids who knew how to resolve conflicts on their own, providing an opportunity to increase their emotional IQ while giving me time to work.
With this play date plan, I have been able to write two books during the daylight hours while taking breaks to feed the kids and their friends, allowing me to launch my career as a writer and DIY healing specialist.
A challenge conquered? Embracing my child’s difficult behaviors as a gift, waiting to be opened, has transformed my parenting and how I handle tantrums and other disruptive behaviors. I spent two and a half years drowning in the constant screaming of my second daughter. Then I began to see how she seemed to scream even louder than usual when my husband appeared particularly exhausted and overwhelmed, yet was refusing to take time for himself. As I pushed him to rest more and express his feelings, she miraculously began to calm down. Now at age 13, she is exceptionally easy-going and creative.
Dr Toni DDS
I am Toni. I am a wife, mom of two boys (ages 5 and 1), dentist and blogger at drtonidds.com where I help moms achieve optimal oral health for themselves and the entire family.
My biggest challenge is balancing my time between work, family and my blog. It always seems like there is one that is lacking and not getting enough attention. Even with planning everything that I can in my planner it still is a balancing act with the kiddos.
I have conquered mommy guilt. I no longer feel guilty when I do things for myself and have to leave my kids for a long period of time for work. I have learned to remind myself WHY I am doing what I am doing and it makes the guilt go away. Also, I make the best of the time that I am with my kids. I give them all of my attention. I put away the phone and other electronics and play and have a good time. Then when I have to leave them I don’t feel so bad because I have spent some quality time with my kids.
Where can you find Toni?
Special thanks to all of the moms who were part of this post. Share your mom struggles and accomplishments in the comments section!